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What I’ve learned about relationships from months of social isolation.

You know the saying:

After months of social isolation, I’ve had a lot of time to reflect on this old cliche. It’s taken forced separation from friends and family to realize the absolute importance of good relationships in my life.

If this is true — and if we hear it said all the time— why did it take months of social isolation for me to really get it?


Most adults are just children in grown-up clothing.

After months of social isolation, I found myself in the company of a few friends. We arranged ourselves in a circle outdoors with fold out chairs underneath us and the moon dimly illuminating our faces.

As my friends spoke, I saw something which made me question my sanity.

Maybe it was their facial expressions. Maybe it was the strange shadows painted on our faces by the moonlight. All I know, is that I saw it.

In that moment, I was…

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Is “reaching” happiness actually a biological impossibility? There may be better and more practical ways to approach the problem of being happy.

I remember back to elementary school when the adults in my life would tell me I should strive to “be happy”. Sounds innocent, right? The problem was that “happiness” was portrayed to me as if it were the ultimate goal of life; as if I could some day “reach” happiness and once I did, I knew I’d made it.

As a naive, innocent little boy, I looked back at these well-intentioned grown-ups, my eyes gleaming with hope at the thought of this attractive aim.

These adults surely meant well, but they had no idea that this cliche was a biologically…

Why to prioritize it during COVID-19 and the most overlooked and inexpensive ways to sleep like a newborn baby…

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If you struggle to sleep––and wake up wishing the day would never begin––this article is for you.

First, let me tell you why I’ve spent so much time researching sleep.

As a kid, I always had great sleep. Unlike most adults and adolescents, I remember waking up at 6 am ready and actually excited for the day. For many of us, including myself, that’s now a distant memory…

Then, puberty hit and nothing was the same––in many ways. Among the many changes was my sleep.

This is what a typical night looked like for me:

  • Waking up at least five times a night, wondering whether it was time to wake up already
  • Taking at least an hour to fall asleep. EVERY. SINGLE. NIGHT.

Your personality creates your personal reality. If you’re unhappy with reality…

…start with yourself.

Something that’s helped me remain human, in a time where being human has proven to be so difficult, is weekly journaling.

Every Saturday for the past three weeks I’ve written anywhere from a page to two pages, holding a figurative mirror up to myself.

I’ve found it to be a profoundly powerful exercise for understanding my behaviors, thoughts, and feelings. It has also allowed me to evaluate whether I’m moving towards the future I want, merely standing in place, or moving backwards.

The amount of time Officer Derek Chauvin held his knee to George Floyd’s neck is indisputable, yet people can’t seem to agree on anything else.


On Monday May 25, 2020, George Floyd was murdered at the hands of officer Derek Chauvin. Pinned to the ground with one knee on his neck, Floyd remained facing the ground for 8 minutes and 46 seconds. As his life was slowly and painfully being extinguished, he pleaded for a breath of air.

I’ve learned the importance of being clear with a topic as important and emotionally charged as this one. So, let me make it clear what my stance is before I proceed.

To me, it is painfully obvious that this is a crime against humanity. No words will…

A few simple steps to make a 3 day fast much less unpleasant.

Although I could just say, Screw it, and start the fast tomorrow, there are a few things I can do beforehand to 1.) reap the full benefits of the fast 2.) make it much less unpleasant.

Therefore, prior to my fast, I’ve brought together my experience with fasting and some research.

What can I drink? Should I exercise? How do I break a fast? These are all questions I researched like crazy when I started to use fasting one year ago. Thankfully, through trial and error, as well as hours on PubMed, I’ve found some promising answers.

In order to…

What do you want a post-pandemic world to look like?

The current state of the world is one giant mess. Alright, that pretty much sums it up. That’s it for this article!

Nope. Strap in, ladies and gentlemen.

While some are too afraid to even make eye contact, others claim this whole pandemic is fake. However, many, including myself, lie somewhere in between, not being consumed by fear, yet remaining skeptical and vigilant.

One thing is for certain: the world simply cannot go on like this for much longer.

So what will it be like once this blows over? You might answer: how the hell should I know? We can’t…

You probably think I’m going to hype up a cold shower. Not in the way you’d think.

I’m going to talk about something much deeper. Of course, those of you who know me know I can’t just stop at: Cold showers are good for you!

So, in honor of Michigan’s resistance to turn winter into spring, I decided to spend some time in the cold and do some research on it.

Here’s what the cold can do for you, mentally and physically.

Physiological Benefits

There are many proven benefits of a cold shower, including

  • Increasing brown fat tissue: unlike white fat, which simply serves as energy storage, brown fat guzzles energy, leading to increased fat burning and metabolism
  • Improved…

Una noche en la ciudad de Puebla, México, estaba regresando una señora del trabajo cuando una camioneta se metió en frente de ella. Llegaron a un semáforo rojo, y se paró la camioneta.

Publicado en Abril 28, 2019

Jorge Roman Lopez

Author of “Return to Human”. Certified Health Coach. Host of the Live Damn Well Podcast.

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